Have you ever found yourself in a situation where the lines between right and wrong become blurred? Well, today I have a confession to make. I am a married woman, and for the past three years, I have been involved in an amorous relationship with another man. Shocking, right?
Let me give you a little background. My husband has been in the United States for the past ten years, leaving me alone to take care of our three children. For the first seven years, I remained faithful, rejecting countless proposals from other men. But as time went on, the loneliness became unbearable, and I found myself succumbing to temptation.
It’s not easy for me to admit this, but I want to share my story and hopefully find some solace in doing so. I recently had the opportunity to speak with Dr. Prekese on Onua FM’s #WasɛmNeSen segment of the drive time show, where I poured out my heart. The guilt and turmoil I feel are overwhelming.
The man I have been involved with wants to pay my bride price and marry me, but I am torn. How can I betray the trust of my husband, who has been away for so long? It’s a constant battle between my desires and my commitment to my marriage.
Now, let me tell you a little bit about myself. My name is Loise, and I am a Kenyan lady living in Switzerland. I am proud of everything I have accomplished, knowing that it was the result of my determination and hard work. I am a nurse by profession and an interior designer. But my journey to where I am now hasn’t been easy.
I was born in Meru, the firstborn among three kids. My mother was a businesswoman, and my father was a journalist. From a young age, I had a dream of living abroad, and my father guided me on the best courses to pursue to make that dream a reality. After completing Form 4, I took a leap of faith and flew to Germany, where I worked as an au pair (babysitter) while immersing myself in the country’s culture.
Working as an au pair was not as glamorous as I had imagined. My first host family was harsh, and I couldn’t bear it for more than three months. Luckily, a friend connected me to another family where both parents were doctors. They treated me with kindness and even enrolled me in nursing school. Life was starting to look up, and I eventually managed to rent my apartment.
It was during this time that I met Harun, a medical student who captured my heart. We fell in love, and despite his financial struggles, I became the provider, using my earnings to support both of us. It wasn’t an ideal situation, but love knows no boundaries.
In conclusion, life is full of unexpected twists and turns. I never imagined myself in this situation, torn between my husband and the man I have fallen in love with. But I hope that by sharing my story, I can find some clarity and guidance. Sometimes, we make mistakes, but it’s how we handle them that truly defines us.