During the time he dated his now-wife, a Nigerian guy described how his girlfriend, who is now his wife, never put financial pressure on him.
He claimed that they dated for nearly nine years and that he cannot recall a single instance during that time when she put a financial weight on his frail shoulders.
He told his story on Twitter, emphasizing the importance of couples not making their relationship’s fulcrum.
he wrote
”All through the almost 9 years I dated my wife, I cannot recall her asking me for money for anything for one day.
It was basically us just doing stuff together with our money. Right from university days until we graduated.
She didn’t call me one day to ask for money for phone Recharge card or hair or dress. We had occasional exchange of gifts and that’s that. Do not see me as tweeting from a privilege position. Our parents weren’t wealthy but they took care of our needs. All these were mostly seen as normal to us because it was common amongst my peers.
So it’s what I know I’ll tweet about. It remained that way until we got married before we individually took up our roles. To the younger ones, you can do it. Poverty is not an excuse as long as you have parents or siblings that are sponsoring you, live within your means and enjoy your relationship and grow together.
Involving money in relationships breed entitlement mentality between people dating.
I take care of you and you give me sex. That’s entitlement. You miss all the opportunities to truly know who you’re dating & it reduces trust & This was what we did. It doesn’t have to work for you if you try. But I’ll not come here to deceive you/tweet for the optics just because it’s “popular” opinion.I’m more into building, bonding & deliberately committing when it involves issues of the heart.”
